How we allow labels, thoughts and actions to define us

From our birth we have been defined by labels, thoughts and actions. These were not done purposely to us, and we did not purposely believe the information and labels thrust upon us. No, most of this programming was done out of love and misguided intention from our loved ones, teachers, peers and society of “what is good for us”and “how we should behave and be”. There, of course, also exists the element of misguided intention out of spite, jealousy and dislike to tell us “what we are not good at” or “that we don’t matter”.

Recognising that we believe these definitions

The above is just an example of where our labels, thoughts and actions have come from but we are very much responsible for our labels, thoughts and actions. This was quite a revelation to me when I realised this truth. To be frank, it actually floored me as I am, like most I suspect, happy enough to blame others for all my perceived shortcomings, so when a truth like this focuses your attention on all the labels, thoughts and actions that you have about yourself and that you have created in your life, no matter where the information came from, the truth is that I believed that this is true about myself.

It is that very statement – ” I believed this to be true of myself” that set me free, I could physically feel something shift inside me and a curiosity grow within me to discover just which labels, thoughts and actions are not true, and if they are not true, what is true then about myself?

It has taken me years of rediscovering myself and rewiring my thoughts to find the labels that are true and fit, to find the thoughts that are true and fit and to find the actions that match the new rewiring. The first thing was to actually throw labels out the window by understanding that this word and definition in itself is quite limiting.

How to change these definitions?

I asked myself a series of questions which in turn led to more questions and made me realise that whilst we are quite keen to ask others questions, we do not as ourselves enough questions and this my friend, is when we join the herd. Ask questions of yourself about what it is you are hearing and experiencing in order to be the one watching the herd!

My questions were along the line of:

1. What are my labels? How do I define myself?

2. If I took away these labels and definitions, what would my world look like then?

3. How would I think of myself? Who would I be in my world?

4. What limitations would I have?

The answer to the last one is the most powerful one, as there would be no limitations. You would be free to be yourself, to speak your truth, to listen to your heart and think from your heart and act from your heart. Your world around you would be created as you would like it to be from the heart. All the other questions would be answered by answering the last one and allowing yourself to work through all the painful labels and definitions to find your truth, it might be painful while you are working through ti but I can guarantee you great joy when you have worked through it.

Your viewpoint of who you are becoming and what you are doing would be completely changed and it would be a fantastic viewpoint as it comes from love. It comes from love of yourself which just radiates out into the world around you.

Going forward…

This is a daily practice for me but I can honestly say that as I am shedding the labels and definitions, as my thoughts are rewired to see the truth of myself and my actions are a reflection of the world I want to create around me, I feel lighter and more hopeful of every moment.

It takes courage to acknowledge that you alone are responsible for your labels, thoughts and actions, however, I can tell with you absolutely certainty, it is so worth it.

At the moment we are in a world of uncertainty and fear and yet the only thing we are certain of is ourselves. We have been handed a gift of being silent and discovering our truth for ourselves. It is this discovery, I believe that will bring much hope and joy in the world and you discover the essence of yourself and how to be hopeful and joyful in a world that may be collapsing around you but your immediate world is doing just fine.

Art has always helped my understand the choices I have made, helped me to rewire a lot of my programming and has healed so much for me and helped me to understand self love. I would love to help you in discovering your truth on your journey. During this time of lockdown for many, I am offering a free online mini course of one hour to help you get started on your journey.

I look forward to hearing from you and thank you for reading my words.

Thanks and take care,

Michelle